Can I be Both?
It's About Function
Let us go beneath Personality and explore Human Function. An introverts experience of life and their function is different than the extroverts in the world. Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong or broken with "being different", although it is important to understand what the difference is. This post is intended to go a bit deeper, and look at how humans function in the world, and how we can begin to identify others by observing how they function. When we begin to understand this difference, we can begin to give ourselves permission to do our lives, our work life and our relationships in ways that work best for us.
How is Your Energy Restored?
While this may seem to fly in the face of many popular definitions, this is about function and how introversion-extroversion functions in our lives. For Introverts, we restore our energy through time alone, in nature, reading, etc. It's an internal process. For Extroverts- they restore their inner energies by connecting with other people- an external process. If you aren't sure which way you lean- consider how you feel when you are around other people- at home, in the workplace or socially. Do you feel drained after a period of time, or do you feel recharged? Introverts can be social, and enjoy being around people for a period of time, but the inner energies become drained and need to be restored. Extroverts can enjoy time alone as well, and they both lose energy through interactions with others and gain energy from the interactions with others. While this is a significant factor- it is not a defining factor in temperament or personality.
How do You Gather Information?
All temperaments begin with either an "S" for Sensing or an "N" for Intuition. How we gather information from the world around is the most decisive factor in temperament or personality. The S's use their five senses to gather information about their world and are connected to the world of people and things. The N's use their five senses and rely more on their "gut feelings," hunches and intuition to gather information about the world and what is happening. They may be seen more as lost in their inner world and feelings. There is a difference in how each lives as well as their inner experience. Intuition is non-physical and difficult to define. We all have and use both our five senses and our sixth senses, which do you depend upon to determine your actions and decisions?
How do You Make Decisions?
This comes to the "T" for Thinking and "F" for Feeling. Lets briefly explore how this works. The "T's" work to review the facts and uses the knowledge of the facts to make a decision, and to someone who primarily uses this expression, feelings seem irrelevant in making a decision. The "F's" follow that same process of what the facts say, and then must consider their feelings about the information and the decision as that affects their comfort with the results. Emotions are also "facts" to be considered, and emotions take time to process.
What do The J and the P Mean?
Many personality assessments use the descriptors as J for "Judging" and P for "Perceiving." Considering everyone does those, we simply use the J and the P as neither helps us with the meaning. This is about preferred lifestyle- I often describe it as the speed of life. It seems that the clock speaks differently to those with a J and their awareness of the passage of time than those with a P. Someone who has a J in their profile likes to make a decision, get things done and get on with it, and often goes through life with a sense of pressure or urgency. Someone who has a P in their profile is almost the opposite- they prefer to keep their options open, don't like to come to a closure and prefer a more spontaneous existence.
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Truly and Deeply,
For a historical introduction to temperament, (over two and a half millennium's worth) I'd suggest I'm A Keeper - 2009. (I May Frustrate You but I'm a Keeper- Parenting the Temperaments with Love and Confidence) by Ray W. Lincoln